Most of us, at one time or another, have gotten so upset at another individual that we had a meltdown, so to speak. We may have said things we regret, may have stormed off, slammed doors, or acted in a way we wish we could take back. These things happen and apologies are one of the first steps toward reconciliation. When a caregiver is under a tremendous amount of stress and anxiety looking after an aging parent, stress is going to be a part of life.
These emotional outbursts can be damaging to relationships.
It could be an aging parent that somebody is looking after. It could be their spouse of 40 or 50 years. It might even be an adult child who was injured and disabled in an accident. Whoever it is, when there is an emotional trauma that resulted from extreme stress and anxiety that caused an outburst, the first step toward reconciliation is a simple apology.
But what if you weren’t at fault?
Many people see the other person as being to blame for various circumstances. It’s difficult to see one’s own liability. Even if we are completely free of blame and it was the other individual, a simple apology can start the healing process.
“Why would I apologize if it wasn’t my fault?”
This is a common question many people ask. While it may sincerely have been the other person’s fault completely, if we raised our voice, even in defense, we have something to apologize for. Some people see it as being superhuman when they hold their tongue and never vent out with the angry or aggressive during these situations, but it can be done. However, most of us don’t have that superhuman ability.
So, a simple apology can get things started.
It opens the conversation. It helps the other person see that there’s a desire for reconciliation. That other person may never apologize, see their fault, or even acknowledge they did anything wrong. When somebody requires constant care and help, especially with daily tasks around the house, such as bathing, toileting, or preparing meals, it can cause them to feel inferior and frustrated.
Being a family caregiver is a great responsibility and it often comes with a tremendous amount of stress. If these situations arise more and more frequently, it may be best to talk about home care support instead of continuing on this path that could permanently damage the relationship.
If you or an aging loved one are considering home care to reduce caregiver stress in West Memorial, TX, please call the caring staff at At Your Side Home Care. We will answer all of your senior care questions. Call today: (832) 271-1600.
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