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Why You Don’t Need to Feel Guilty If You Don’t Want to Be a Caregiver

Caregiver Stress in Katy TX

Caregiver StressYour mother needs support. She’s calling you constantly to help her with a variety of things. One day it might be taking out the garbage. The next it could be for a ride to the mall. The next she may be calling for help because she needs to get the laundry up from the basement and doesn’t feel comfortable navigating the stairs.

Because you live in the same town, you feel like she’s been taking advantage of you. You want to be there for her, but the last thing you want to be is her caregiver.

You understand the commitment being a caregiver means.

Perhaps you have a brother or sister or some other family members who can’t understand why you won’t be there for her willingly. In truth, one of your best friends ended up taking this job on to care for her father and it consumed most of her life. You went almost two years without seeing or even hearing from her, except late at night when she was in tears, completely overwhelmed with stress and anxiety as her work as a family caregiver.

You didn’t want to go through that.

This had nothing to do with your relationship with your mother or any other family members. You knew the cost of being a caregiver. You knew the sacrifices you’d have to make. You want to be able to enjoy your life and maintain a high quality of it.

You also understand your mother and her temperament. There’s no way the two of you would be able to work together for very long without getting into arguments, saying nasty things to one another, and getting frustrated with the entire situation.

Those little, petty arguments would blow over quickly, but it would just add even more stress to your life. Your family and maybe even your mother are trying to make you feel guilty for not taking care of her. You don’t need to feel guilty.

No matter what they say to you, you have every right to decline being a caregiver for an elderly family member. However, you want her to be safe and comfortable. That’s where home care support comes in.

Your mother may be adamantly against relying on a caregiver, but that’s her choice.

When that choice is available and people refuse it, that’s not something you should have to feel guilty about. Guilt is a powerful force and it leads many to do things they normally wouldn’t even consider. You don’t have to fall for that trap when home care support services is available.

If you or an aging loved one are considering home care in Katy, TX or the surrounding areas, please contact SYNERGY HomeCare of Houston at (832) 803-0011.

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Mark Haselden

Hayley Sheeks and her father, Mark Haselden live passionately, for providing quality homecare services to individuals in their homes. They both decided to open Synergy HomeCare of Katy after both Mark sold his most recent business and Hayley graduated with her nursing degree, both knowing the growing need for individuals to age in place as the baby boomer population reaches retirement age. Synergy HomeCare’s mission statement speaks to those core values that both inspire and encompass Hayley and Mark’s vision as Non-Medical HomeCare providers.
"Our mission is to continue to be the premier provider of home care services within the industry by continuallystriving to offer our clients the highest quality of life and independence attainable.Our success starts bytreating each of our clients and caregivers with the dignity and respect they deserve."